tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6860053.post3112939646021697762..comments2023-09-09T12:04:23.106-04:00Comments on sub french: Being a feminist kinksterUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6860053.post-91092105589639952542010-07-18T12:22:00.460-04:002010-07-18T12:22:00.460-04:00Oh jaysus, posts like that make my eyes twitch. A...Oh jaysus, posts like that make my eyes twitch. As do the ones that say that CLEARLY I had to have been abused in some fashion (hint: I was lucky and wasn't).<br /><br />I'm still working on it too (obviously :) ) but I agree with you as well - if we're happy and it works for us, other people can shove off.frenchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12104644567237371305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6860053.post-91801388752557177322010-07-14T03:59:19.451-04:002010-07-14T03:59:19.451-04:00I identify with this post so much. I'm mostly ...I identify with this post so much. I'm mostly a sub, and sometimes I sit here thinking, am I somehow not a real feminist? (I have a very small domme inside me. She uses a silk whip.) I see things written by some feminists I admire that basically say a dominant male hitting a submissive woman means the dominant male is a sexually sick misogynist abuser and the submissive woman is a victim of internalized misogyny, self-hatred and the patriarchy and can't actually be fulfilled by what's happening. Further, that it can't be truly consensual, because of the patriarchy and misogyny and etc. And it hurts like hell.<br /><br />I'm still trying to figure it out. What's worked best for me is remembering that if a man can be a submissive, why can't I? If a woman can enjoy wielding a whip without it meaning something bad about her, why can't a man? Finally, if I'm fulfilled and happy, and so is my partner, everyone else can just butt out.Elodiehttp://elodieonlove.com/noreply@blogger.com